“You may win the battle but lose the war!” Be careful how you speak and discuss with people because you may find yourself on the wrong track altogether and do more harm than good. Paul writes to Timothy, “Remind them of these things, and charge them before God not to quarrel about words, which does no good, but only ruins the hearers. Do your best to present yourself to God as one approved, a worker who has no need to be ashamed, rightly handling the word of truth.”
2 Timothy 2:14-15, ESV.
I heard a story shared about two aggressive and competitive tennis players who each hit a winning shot. The only problem was that they were playing on different tennis courts! Obviously, this is a made up story, but it is useful to consider as we compare the two players with people who are arguing as they will never agree because they are only interested in winning. They are probably starting at different viewpoints and will therefore, never agree. We are encouraged to stand up for what we believe, but then to listen in an attempt to understand where the other person is coming from.
“So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. Have nothing to do with foolish, ignorant controversies; you know that they breed quarrels.”
2 Timothy 2:22-23, ESV.